Agency is a lifetime pattern of core self abandonment in which we live our life to please, fix, or be a certain way so that others will love us, accept us, and never leave us. We often needed this to survive our childhood. When we bring this pattern into adulthood, we limit our ability to thrive and experience full aliveness. We also set ourselves up to experience significant challenges in health, happiness, and sabotage any potential for a lasting relationship.
Survival/Character Styles - Our defensive stance in life that we use to ensure we never get hurt again. This often is occurring on a subconscious level. Our survival style is fully formed and active as a teenager from 14-21. In our adult life our survival style will sabotage many different aspects of our life.